Remembering Why … Circle of Concern vs Circle of Control

I’m pretty sure not many are aware of this, but All Right Choices isn’t the first website I’ve administrated. Some of you might not even be aware of the fact that I’ve been an animal and environmental activist, for pretty much all my life.

When I was only 16 years old, I was quite active on ASPCA online community, signing petitions, getting involved in online adoptions, fighting against animal cruelty in any way possible.

Going fast from creating only a group against animal cruelty, to opening my own online community for animal lovers in Romania, a full time job started, which lasted for more than 2 years. That’s the moment when Romanian SPCA Online Community was born (September 10, 2008).

With almost 500 animal lovers actively involved, we really got it going. We became the voice of the voiceless  and did what we could to get animals adopted worldwide, send petitions all around the world to gather signatures, create petitions and forward them to the responsible authorities, write articles, inform people, start competitions, games and share our love for animals.

That community became my online family, bringing into my life a lot of wonderful people, which are up to this day, part of my family.

What went wrong?

The online platform which used to host the community went from free to … expensive. For a high school student, with no income, that translates into the end. I had no other option but to shut it down, and it was probably the hardest thing I ever had to do, up to that day.

This year is spring I managed to find the ruins of my community, on web archive, and I can’t even begin to describe what went through my heart when I saw the page. I went from happy to sad… That community meant the world to me at one point, and to take just another quick look at it, was a complete miracle to me.

Take Two

As I was working on becoming a programmer, I decided to bring it back to life, just as an exercise, to see if I can do it. Not being provided with the infrastructure of the online platform which used to host the original community, I had to start from scratch, with only a mental image of how it should look like.

Soon enough, I realized I don’t really have the knowledge to finish the job. A lot more learning was needed. So, I took it slow: learning how to create the database, then making the database interact with the website, building the homepage, working on the sign up form.

Little by little, it all started to fall into place, and made me wonder if I should finish it and put it back live again.

The Decision 

Even if the community is long gone, I never actually let go. You can’t really give in to animals being abused. Sometimes, however, it becomes a bit too much to handle. I have problems understanding why people like to project so much hurt around them. And even more, why would you hurt a defenseless soul?

I’ve decided to do a bit of reading, on the page of an animal protection group, and see how I feel about doing it all over again. In just a few seconds I came across an article about a guy who decided to kill a dog by splitting the animal’s head into half, with an ax. The answer: I can’t.

It hurts way to much to put myself in the middle of all of this, once again. I can’t go on a larger scale anymore. It’s bad for my sanity. Instead, keeping in mind the circle of concern and the circle of control, I’ve decided to help at a smaller scale, one animal at a time.


I can’t help all the animals in the world, but I can completely change the world of a few animals, so I better focus on that. The alternative is way to painful, and I just don’t have anymore what it takes to keep it up.

That being said, project RomanianSPCA Online Community will remain at project level. Good exercise for my coding skills, and a wonderful way to bring back great memories.

Through this post I want to thank the absolutely incredible people who came into my life, through the community. I am very happy to call you part of my family, and I hope this post will bring back some good memories for you as well!

4 thoughts on “Remembering Why … Circle of Concern vs Circle of Control

  1. I am amazed at how much you did for abused animals when so young. Reading this post, I really felt for you and understand not being able to go through all that again. Helping even one animal is still helping, and means the world to that one 🙂

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    • Thank you so much for reading and for taking the time to leave a comment! I was afraid I might project the wrong idea out there, like I don’t care anymore. I’m happy to know you understand how it feels like. I believe the same thing, about changing the world of that one animal. But it was definitely a great chance, to do more, back then. I still miss that community. I made a lot of wonderful friends there. Have a lovely day! x

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      • I have seen it takes a lot out of people when they work at animal rescue organisations. They can only manage a few years usually, but will always care for as many animals as they can. I have adopted 6 dogs over the years, ages 18 months to 12 years, yet I know it is not enough. Sadly, there are so many abused and abandoned animals here in SA. Our rescue organisations try to educate people in the care of their animals, and run a programme where kids with problems go and work with the dogs in need, and so they help each other.
        Wishing you a Happy New Year 🙂

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      • I feel the same way. Coming from Romania, you see dogs killed by cars on the road or poisoned or killed, every single day. It’s sad and it kills you inside because you can’t do much. You almost start to believe it’s a bit on the normal side, even if it doesn’t feel right. And then you travel abroad, and see that it doesn’t happen anywhere else… No such thing as strays in a civilized country. It’s good to see the rescue organizations doing their part. It’s always better to start with the kids. They are the future generation. People are mean, and sadly, I don’t know if you can do much to change this. I’m happy to hear you changed the world of so many pups. I wish more people would do it! You are absolutely amazing!!! Happy New Year!!! ❤ xo


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